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answer these questions.



• What was your role in the relationship?


• Were there issues that kept popping up, again and again?



• What were typical interactions with your significant other like, and were you comfortable with them?


• What part did you play in resolving conflicts?


• What are your needs and were they being met on a consistent basis?


• Were you able to meet your significant other's needs?


• Did you feel that any sacrifices you made for the relationship were healthy/balanced?


• How did you tend to communicate? Were you able to speak openly, honestly, directly and without aggression?


After answering those questions, scan the other important relationships in your life and see if anything stands out as a pattern. You might consider enlisting the help of a therapist in sorting this out, especially if you find yourself in psychologically, emotionally or physically abusive relationships.

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